The person you marry is not the person you divorce—my uncle learned that the hard way. He was a strapping young lad, and she, a fine young woman. Together, they were supposed to live happily ever after and had three children, a big house, and a strong financial future. My family would always visit them and have the time of our lives. We would go fishing, paintballing, ride four wheelers, and swim as much as we could before eating a delicious meal and falling asleep at the end of a long day. Then all of a sudden, it started to change. Smiles were not so natural, stresses began to grow, and eventually, the knot got loose and became untied. My cousins took it hard, and my uncle eventually got remarried.
People change, and that’s life. I don’t hold it against either one of them, but the courts seemed to side a little more in her favor. She got full custody of the boys, legally moved as far away as she could across the county, received the maximum amount of child support, in addition to alimony, and took half of my uncle’s retirement. Our family was shocked and disappointed, but we still keep her in the loop and treat her as the mother of my cousins.
What upset my uncle the most was only being allowed to see his kids every other weekend. During the week, he drives nearly two hours through traffic on Tuesdays and Thursdays to support them at sports practice and other extracurriculars, but I know he wishes he could be there more. He loves his kids with all of his heart, but the courts didn’t really care to take that into consideration. Since he didn’t sign a prenuptial agreement, as suggested by these Georgia Family Law Attorneys, they ended up siding with her. He worked for eight years as a military man, and went to work right afterwards in a strong professional career. He saved his money, living frugally, and invested heavily in his retirement so he could provide a financially secure and bright future for his family.
His story isn’t the only one I’ve heard of either. Across the country, nearly 40 percent of first-time marriages end in divorce. After that, second marriages have about a 60 percent chance, and third marriages increase to over a 70 percent chance of ending in divorce. The younger generations seem to be more reluctant to get married right away, and many are more inclined to pursue a common law marriage after living together for a while. A lot of my friends are taking it slow, and even though they’ve been together for years, there isn’t really a rush to seal the deal and get married.
My realtor and his “wife” are taking that approach, and they swear they will never get married because they claim the ceremony will bring bad luck. They’re as happy as can be and have been together nine years. They’re also easy going and fun people to be around, so maybe it’s all coincidence, but I appreciate their happiness and commitment to each other.Read More